For some reason it’s a lot easier for us to believe all the negative comments that people throw our away. Why is this? Why is it that we want to grasp the negative notions and our demeaning inner voices that cause us to stay small?
Do we need to earn courage? Im starting to believe we do. I’m beginning to understand that those who don’t have courage can wear it more proudly when they start walking in their bravery.
So then, fear needs to be sat down and put in its place. I love how Elizabeth Gilbert describes how she addresses fear. She talks to fear in this way, “Fear, I recognize that you are part of this family, so I will never exclude you from our activities, but still your suggestions will never be followed. You’re allowed to have a seat and you’re allowed to have a voice but you’re NOT allowed to have a vote. You’re NOT allowed to have the roadmap and you’re NOT allowed to make detours; and you’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you’re not even allowed to touch the radio! But, above all else, my dear, familiar friend, you’re absolutely forbidden to drive.”
I love this because a lot of times we play around with fear. We entertain that fear has something to offer us. Fear does have a place. It has a place In the jungle when an animal is charging, listen to that fear! In an alley when somebody approaches you with a gun, listen to that fear! But when you know there’s something that is within you that wants to be created and you know, deep down it will fulfill you, stop listening to fear. Put it in its place.
To some, this seems like such a simple notion. A no-brainer to not listen to the skeptic within. But for me, this is something I struggle with and I think a lot of people struggle with, but we are afraid to talk about. We’re afraid to except the place where we’re at. Maybe if we just cover it up, if we fake it ’till we make it, then no one will ever know the real pain hiding just beneath the surface.
But I have a different notion. What if we met fear head on, what if we’re honest with it and told it it’s place. We reclaimed our power and our potency in our own lives. Even as I write this, I’ve started to make small changes in my life that others might not find as groundbreaking or as revolutionary, but they’re my own struggles and I’m choosing to be the master of them and tell them where they’re place is. The result is electric! It’s powerful and it’s the exact thing I’ve been looking for. It’s the thing I needed to do to fulfill.
It doesn’t come to me as a surprise that I’m doing it differently, because well, there’s been one thing that I’ve accepted about myself a long time ago and it is that I’m different. I’ll never fit in with the “cool kids “and I never want to because doing things differently is one of the most exciting things that I’ve ever experienced in my life. And I’m not about to change that.
So I suggest that we do life differently. I suggest that we confront fear first and even seek out situations where we have the opportunity to have a conversation with fear and it’s repetitive dialogue. That we tell it to, “sit down and, just shut up!”, Because it’s not the driver on our journey through life, but creativity, joy, love, and reckless compassion is.
What are some areas in your life where you’ve let fear take hold and you want to do something a little different?
What do you really want to do? Think big and dream!
If there are bits and pieces or a chunk of conquering fear that you would like to share, open up and let us in on the electric experience.
This is an invitation to all.